Margie's daughter has lost custody of three children and is pregnant again. Margie is raising the three grandchildren. She is frustrated and angry about the pregnancy because she knows her daughter won't raise this child either. Does this sound familiar?
One common challenge faced by some grandparents raising grandchildren is having a daughter who keeps having babies. Many of these young women are not thinking of the consequences of their actions. Drugs and/or alcohol abuse and sometimes prostitution may be involved. These young women often do not think ahead enough to use birth control. Even when they plan to use protection, they often do not follow through.
Many, but not all, have problems with drug and alcohol abuse. Some may be mentally unstable and, like the young women mentioned above, are not thinking about birth control.
Unfortunately, there are no easy solutions for grandparents who end up raising their children's children. Options, although not encouraging, might include:
One thing you, as a grandparent, must come to terms with is that you have no control over what your daughter does. You must decide what you will or will not do. Your decision needs to be based on what is best for you and the grandchildren you already have, not what is best for the next baby.
Remember, if you do not take care of yourself, you will not be able to adequately care for even one grandchild.