There are a lot of different ways to raise children. What works for one child may not work for another. And some days, it seems like nothing works.
Most of us fall into one of four basic parenting styles, although none of them are always consistent.
Dictator parents set clear expectations for children and enforce the rules. But they tend to be harsh in their methods and often use punishment.
Permissive parents are child-centered and nurturing, but have trouble saying no.
Uninvolved parents don't set limits or have high expectations; however, they aren't warm and affectionate either.
Authoritative parents set clear expectations for their children and follow through on rules. Yet, while they set firm rules and consequences for disobedience, they are clearly warm and affectionate toward their children. As a result, children raised by authoritative parents are usually happy, self-controlled, and have good self-esteem. This combination of love and limits seems to produce more cooperative children who do better in school.
Setting appropriate limits and enforcing consequences are important parts of authoritative parenting. Here are some tips to follow when setting limits for your grandchildren:
Sometimes we need to realize that our behavior may need to be altered to create the positive changes in the child's behavior. It is the combination of love and limits that we need to strive for as parents and grandparents.