How do I set limits?

Be clear about your expectations and set your limits clearly. Define what you will and will not tolerate right at the beginning.

Things to determine at the beginning with the teen parent are:

Be sure to let the teen know what the consequences are for not meeting your expectations. Be concrete in your explanations and don't "beat around the bush." Focus on your goal and what you want. Do not be angry, but tell it straight and in objective terms.

Explain your rules and why you have them.

You will want to keep your communications short. Teens are busy and need you to be right in step with them. They do want feedback, but they want it fast.

Always be positive, honest, and be clear about what you want or need. For instance, you might say,