Helping Teens Deal with Stress
Teens face stress from all directions.
The teenage years revolve around friends, school, family, sports, and events. Normal stress of friendships, relationships, school assignments, and now have the added pressure of COVID-19 health risks. As a parent, when do you step in and when do you let your teen work through it on their own? Illinois Extension provides tips for monitoring your teen, with ideas for how you can help. Read more ways to help teens deal with stress.
Look for these Signs of Stress in Teens
- Change in sleeping patterns: Are they getting 8 hours of sleep daily?
- Change in behavior: Are they more easily irritable or exhibit lack of energy?
- Change in activity patterns: Are they engaging less with family members or staying alone in their room more?
- Change in eating patterns: Are they eating more or less than before?
- Change in overall health: Do they complain of headaches, stomach aches, or muscle pain?
- Changes in mood: Do you see mood swings that are out of the ordinary: crying, laughing, gloomy?
Look for these events that may trigger added stress
- An injury prevents playing sports.
- A family conflict causes them to miss a school dance.
- •A loss prevents advancement into playoffs.
- •An unexpected breakup occurs.
- A friendship experiences growing pains.
- A disconnect occurs from regular routines and schedules.
Here’s how you can help your teen
- Allow your teenager to experience frustration.
Make sure you don’t minimize their feelings. Let them vent and assist with looking beyond their immediate emotions. Have open communication on what is disappointing them and suggest positive ways to help calm their thoughts.
- Listen to your teenager.
As parents, we want to fix the situation; however, listening to their perceptions of the situation is essential.
- Identify resources or other role models for your teen.
Resources should be about real stories of how people they identify with persevered in trying times.
- Make your teen the primary focus; it’s not about ourselves.
Perhaps sharing your thoughts that you are disappointed as well can be a way of building a connection with your teenager, but keep it in perspective about your teen.
- Explore ways to de-stress.
Utilize techniques such as mindfulness practices, deep breathing, journaling, relaxation, and exercise.
- Offer perspective on how they can deal with unexpected, disappointing circumstances.
The situation is not what they want, but, create realistic opportunities and explore the new opportunities the situation presents. Help your teenager acknowledge that stumbling blocks do occur and then assist them with coming up with alternatives.
- Stay connected with friends and family.
When face to face is not an option, communicate by phone calls, texts, email, video chat, and social media with others who may be experiencing similar situations. Encourage your teenager to share about the disappointment but not to dwell on it and be open to positive conversations with others.
- Find a distraction from the disappointing thoughts by playing a game or doing something relaxing together.
This can help your teenager see that they need to try to focus on other things that can be a positive experience.
Remember, disappointments are not all bad. Individuals can learn a great deal and develop several resiliency character traits from this. Disappointments shouldn’t be minimized but it can be an opportunity to grow from the experience.
Read more about helping your teen during stressful times.
- Tips for helping teens cope with stress | Psychology Today:
- Identifying signs of stress in your children and teens | American Psychological Association
- Teen stress rivals that of adults | American Psychological Association
- Help Teens Deal With Stress | Illinois Extension