The holiday season is often depicted as a time of joy, laughter, and togetherness. However, for many, it can also be a period filled with stress and pressure. Navigating family gatherings, financial responsibilities, and the expectations of creating memorable experiences can leave us feeling overwhelmed. For some, the constant presence of commercials, advertisements, and elaborate decorations in stores can even be triggering. This season can be particularly challenging for individuals facing various disparities, whether due to financial instability, mental health issues, or social isolation. Despite these challenges, it’s possible to embrace the holidays and find joy even during stressful times. Here are some strategies to help you navigate the season with a positive mindset, especially if someone in your family is not feeling festive or if you find yourself alone this holiday season.
Acknowledge and Accept Your Feelings
It’s essential to recognize that feelings of stress and anxiety are valid during the holidays. Acknowledging these emotions allows you to address them constructively rather than suppressing them. Understand that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed; you’re not alone in this experience. Embracing your feelings can be the first step toward finding balance and joy.
Consider the Feelings of Others
If a family member is struggling to feel festive, it’s important to approach the situation with empathy and understanding. They might be dealing with personal challenges, grief, or feelings of isolation. Open up a dialogue and encourage them to share their feelings. Being supportive and validating their emotions can create a safe space where they feel heard and understood. Recognizing that not everyone experiences the holiday season in the same way is crucial. Factors such as economic status, mental health, and social support can significantly impact how individuals navigate this time.
Focus on What Matters Most
During the holidays, it’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle, but focusing on what truly matters can help reduce stress. Reflect on your core values and what you want to prioritize during this time. Is it spending quality time with family, giving back to your community, or simply enjoying peaceful moments? Centering your holiday experience around these values can create a more meaningful and fulfilling season.
Create a Flexible Plan
Planning can alleviate some holiday stress, but it’s important to remain flexible. Outline your goals and tasks, but be prepared for things not to go exactly as planned. If a family member is not feeling festive or if you find yourself alone, be open to adjusting your plans to accommodate your or their needs. Maintaining an adaptable mindset can help you navigate challenges without losing sight of the holiday spirit.
Embrace Community and Connection
The holidays are a perfect time to connect with others, but they can also be isolating for some. Make a conscious effort to reach out to friends, family, or community members. Consider hosting a gathering or participating in group activities that allow your family member to engage at their own comfort level. If you’re alone, look for local events, community gatherings, or online meet-ups where you can connect with others. These connections can provide support, laughter, and a sense of belonging during stressful times.
Set Realistic Expectations
Let go of the myth of a “perfect” holiday. Embrace the idea that it’s okay for things to be imperfect. Focus on enjoying the moment rather than striving for an ideal. If a family member is struggling or if you are alone, remember that it’s important to create an inclusive atmosphere that respects everyone’s feelings. This shift in mindset can significantly reduce stress and allow you to appreciate the beauty of the season as it unfolds.
Find Joy in Small Moments
Amidst the holiday hustle, take time to savor small moments that bring you joy. Whether it’s the warmth of a cozy drink, the laughter of loved ones, or the beauty of holiday decorations, these simple pleasures can help ground you and remind you of the season's magic. Encourage your family member to join in these small joys at their own pace, and seek out those same moments for yourself if you're alone.
What to Do If You're Alone
Reach Out: Don’t hesitate to contact friends or family, even if they are far away. A simple phone call, video chat, or text can help you feel more connected.
Volunteer: Consider volunteering at local shelters, food banks, or community centers. Helping others not only provides a sense of purpose but also connects you with your community. Here are some resources to find volunteer opportunities in Illinois during the holiday season:
Illinois Extension: Volunteer with us!
Volunteer Match: Connects volunteers with nonprofits across the country.
Salvation Army: Hosts various holiday programs that often need volunteers.
Create Your Own Traditions: Take this opportunity to start new traditions that bring you joy. Whether it’s cooking a special meal, watching your favorite holiday movies, or taking a nature walk, focus on activities that make you happy.
The holiday season may come with its share of stress, but it also offers opportunities for connection, reflection, and joy. By embracing your feelings, focusing on what matters most, and prioritizing self-care, you can navigate this time with a sense of peace and fulfillment. If someone in your family isn’t feeling festive, approach them with kindness and support, fostering an environment where everyone can feel included and valued. If you find yourself alone, remember there are many ways to connect and engage with others. Let’s come together to support one another, finding joy in the little things and creating meaningful memories that will last long after the season has passed. Embrace the holidays, even during stressful times, and allow yourself and your loved ones to experience the warmth and love that this season can bring.
About the Author: Andrea S. Fanta is a statewide mental health extension specialist. As part of the Integrated Health Disparities program, she evaluates, develops, and implements programming to increase social justice in mental health. She has a master's degree in occupational therapy, and she is currently a doctoral fellow in the Department of Human Development and Family Studies at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign. Andrea has vast experience working with families and actively collaborates with national and local coalitions to strengthen our communities.
The IHD program tackles health issues with an integrated physical, mental, and community health lens, providing programs and resources to address health inequities.